The Lone Wolf
Lately, I’ve been feeling a lot like the lone wolf in my coaching business, or the one red fish in a school of blue fish. You see, the coaching I provide is really hard to define. Everyone knows they need a doctor to help them with their health, or a lawyer to help them with their will, a realtor to buy or sell a house or a barista to craft their latte. Motherhood and self development coaching just don’t fit into a specific container in the same way a teacher, lawyer or doctor do. So it gets lonely, and sometimes feels like I’m screaming into an abyss, wondering who, if anyone, is actually listening? I have finally found my voice, but is anyone listening? Do mothers know to listen? How do I cut through all the noise that’s telling everyone to swim one way and suggest they swim a different direction with me?
As I reflect on this, of course I turn to my motherhood experience. It’s not that much different. I’ve said before that there is information out there to defend every perspective of every decision we make in parenthood. So how does one make a decision then?
The simple answer is: me. I listen to me. You listen you. Turn off the noise. Turn inward.
My heart is saying that motherhood support is wildly undersupported systemically and culturally. Matrescence education is the foundation of motherhood support. Just as we learn about adolescence in order to support teens through the biggest transition of their lives up to that point, we need to learn about matrescence, the massive transformation that takes place in women as they become and be mothers. There is an invisible yet palpable expectation that mothers should know what to do and have it all figured out. Admitting otherwise brings up shame and guilt, which is why I’m creating safe, trusting spaces to explore and share all of it - the good and the bad, the highs and the lows. All experiences are unique, and yet there is a universality at the same time. There is so much power in sharing.
I’m going to continue to share what’s on my mind and in my heart when it comes to motherhood because that’s what my inner voice is telling me to do. You continue to follow your heart too. Perhaps we will intersect at some point. Perhaps we already have, because you are here reading this right now. And if what I’m saying resonates with you, I invite you to reach out and join the conversation. Together we can get louder about motherhood support!
